Rising Strong: Healing and Moving on from Past Pain

As human beings we tend to hold onto things and people that are familiar to us, even if they no longer serve us in a positive way. This can be anything from a toxic relationship to a dead-end job, and it's a struggle that many of us face. But why is it so difficult to let go and move on from these things?

One reason is fear. We fear the unknown and the uncertainty that comes with letting go of something that has been a constant in our lives, even if it's not serving us well. We fear that we won't find something better or that we might regret our decision to let go. This fear can be paralyzing and keep us stuck in situations that are harming us.

We also become attached to people and things that we invest time, energy, and emotions into. Even if these attachments are negative, we can still struggle to let go because we feel a sense of loss and grief. This attachment can be even stronger if the person or thing has been a part of our lives for a long time. We also tend to hold on to things and people because of our beliefs and values. We may believe that we should stick it out and not give up, or that quitting is a sign of weakness. These beliefs can keep us trapped in situations that are not in our best interest.

Finally, we may struggle to let go because of a lack of self-awareness. We may not fully understand why we are holding on to something or how it's impacting us. Without this awareness, it's difficult to make a change and let go. So, what can we do to let go and move on from things and people that no longer serve us?

First, we need to recognize the fear and attachment that is keeping us stuck. We can then challenge our beliefs and values and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves. This self-awareness can help us make better decisions and take action towards letting go. It's also important to seek support from others. This can be a therapist, coach, or trusted friend or family member. Having someone to talk to and process our feelings with can make a big difference in our ability to let go and move on.

Finally, we need to practice self-compassion and patience. Letting go can be a difficult process, and it's important to be kind to ourselves along the way. We may have setbacks and moments of doubt, but with time and effort, we can learn to let go of what no longer serves us and move towards a happier, healthier future.

Forgiving and letting go of the past and things that no longer serve us is a process that takes time and effort. But the benefits of letting go are immeasurable. By releasing ourselves from the emotional burden of the past, we can live our lives with more freedom, joy, and peace.